How parents cause sibling rivalry .

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It's another weekend again, hope we're enjoying it? mine started with house chores and cooking, I prepared semo for the house this morning but the semo wanted to disgrace me 🙆 a whole me that would soon go to my husband's house. Anyways to the glory of God we ate it like that because it's not me that would prepare another one.

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Now to the order of the day ,someone suggested I make my write-ups a little bit lengthier so if this is longer than the usual pls enjoy with me .  

Some years back...i, my younger sister,and my mother were walking somewhere and all of a sudden my mother noticed I wasn't wearing earrings and my sister was wearing , she asked me why I wasn't putting on earrings and I said I didn't like it then she told me "don't you want to be fine like your sister?you don't know not putting on earrings will make you ugly"? I didn't even know what to respond with . There are instances where my mother would tell me my younger sister is more beautiful than me and in my head I'll be like it's not like we're having a competition to see who is finer so why create one . The younger me does not even care if i'm fine or not , dressed well or not ,wear earrings or not(I don't even like earrings) all I just wanted to do was 'carry' first in my class ,wear panties up and down the street,eat and walk barefooted lol.

Imagine if I cared about the fact that my younger sister was more beautiful than me and I have my mother to remind me every 5minutes, firstly I'd want to do everything possible to be finer than my sister which will lead to me resenting and finally hating her. The most recent one is during this election break, I was washing clothes and my mother just came and said won't i wash my sister's clothes ? I said no , and the next thing she said was I'm not a good leader (wtf) how does it even relate 🤷‍♀️ I was flabbergasted (let me use big grammar today). Just because I don't want to wash my sister's clothes makes me a bad leader 😭 God abeg ,I don't even want to lead , let me be a bad leader in peace 😂 I didn't say anything and I didn't wash the clothes either . Then there was a day my sister was supposed to do something for my younger brother but she refused , I told my mother to look at her good leader( e reach good leader turn she no say anything). These are just some few instances in which my mother consciously or unconsciously had instigated rivalry.

There is no home that the parents don't have a favorite child even if it isn't obvious, you'll still get subtle hints from your parents .Some parents might not even know the consequences of some of their actions or word but as they say "To every action,there's always a reaction" . Some children might not have the I don't care attitude that I have towards this things and they subconsciously start to compete with their siblings ,they try their possible best to make their parents like them the way they like their favorite child and if it doesn't work out ,the subconscious competition becomes full blown hatred.

I thank God for this generation because we now have different tools for parenting( books, seminars, teachings, Internet and so many others ) that won't allow us make the same mistakes our parents did. Every child should be loved the same way , if you know you don't have the capability to love a child then don't bring it to this world . I don't mean to make my mother look bad in this write-up but I have to make my point known.

I hope you all learned a thing 

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